This has been on my mind lately and I wanted to talk to you guys about the comparison trap. I am probably be like a lot of you, whose first thought when they see something online is ‘I wish I was like that’ / ‘I wish my life was like that’ / ‘I wish I looked like that’ etc etc. In reality, people are constantly showcasing the best aspects of their life onto social media. So how do we stop comparing ourselves? Here’s a few things I revisit whenever I find myself allowing social media to negatively impact the way I see myself.
Reduce your time on social media.
There was a time when the endless scroll dictated my time spent on more important things. Honestly, people have a hard time admitting how much of their day is spent on social media. To all of my fellow influencers and bloggers, social media is a major part of our brands, I know. But every now and then we have to unplug and regroup. Believe me, you will appreciate the break.
Always remember your “WHY”
It’s easy to get caught up in what others are doing, so much that we forgot our “WHY.” Let’s use the example of starting a blog. In the beginning, I thought I had it all figured out. You start to convince yourself that in order to make an impact you need 10k followers – OR WORSE – you start to think that in order to fit in, you need a certain number of followers.( WRONG) → another case of the comparison trap ←However, what I thought was different actually was the same thing everyone else was doing. It wasn’t until about 6 months in that I realized what I truly wanted to offer my readers. I wanted my blog to be a space where we can have real conversations from the millennial perspective, share life lessons, personal style, teach people how to shop smart, beauty tips and more. If you plan to start business, blog, invest in a new item just simply ask yourself are you passionate about it?
Understand that what’s meant for you, will always be for you.
We’re constantly wishing we had the latest bag, newest car, bigger house, and so on. Instead, we forget our journey and all that we’ve grown through. What is meant for someone else, may not be meant for you. There is no use in trying to compare yourself to the result of someone else’s creativity. It will never be yours. Even if you try your hardest to mimic or imitate it.
Be authentic and people will relate to that.
Finding my voice within blogging has been tough. Imagine trying to showcase your personality through words, sounds easy write? Not for me. I never want to sound cheesy or too professional. More so, authentic, relatable and real – you get the picture. Connecting with others first requires you to know who you truly are. People can see through the bs, trust me.
Always remember, if you try to be like everyone else, who will want to be like you? – Tee Grizley